Wholistic Kink Sessions
While every session is custom-designed for the client, the general arc of the framework remains consistent:
Intake
We will begin with a discovery call to mutually assess if we are a good fit to work together. If we both feel a yes, you will receive an intake questionnaire that will both provide us with information about you, and invite you into a journey of self inquiry guided by potent questions about your state of being, your life circumstances, and your goals with this work.
Session Time
Next we will decide together what length of session will best serve your goals. This could be anywhere from 1 hour, to a multi-day immersion, or a multi-week series of shorter sessions.
Preparing for the session
You will be provided with a clear set of expectations for the session so that you know what the boundaries and limits of the container are, as well as a general daily schedule (for immersion sessions), information about food, attire, toys, etc, and deposit and arrival instructions. You will have the opportunity to ask any clarifying questions you may have before the session. Depending on the individual client and nature of the session, we may offer some “homeplay” or exercises/inquiries to engage in to prepare for the session.
The Arc of a Wholistic Kink session
Arrival and landing
You take your time to arrive, orient to the space, and ground.
Negotiation
We will build on previous communications and have a more detailed negotiation for the day’s exploration (taking into consideration how you are feeling that day, which may vary from how you felt/what you were experiencing in previous conversations.) The short of it is, we meet you where you’re at in the moment, and you are always allowed to change your mind about what you are specifically up for that day.
Body Mapping
We begin with somatic modalities (bodywork/energywork/intuitive work) to assess and create a map of what is present in your body, while also offering you time and space to drop deeper into presence with your body and ground through attuned touch, in conjunction with collaborative dialogue. We combine our expertise with yours to get an overall picture of your soma.
Psyche Mapping
In this portion of the session, we use a variety of modalities to get a picture of your current mental, emotional, relational, and spiritual experience. Here we may uncover aspects such as: limiting belief structures, mental loops, challenging emotional states, existential dilemmas, relational wounds, fantasies, desires, hidden talents, old traumas, or exiled parts of self.
Wholistic Kink Session
This is where the magic really happens. We take everything we’ve mapped so far - from intake process through body and psyche mapping - and weave it together into a bespoke, kink-informed, scene that alchemizes what is stuck into usable energy. We take the material of the psyche and embed it into an artistic, embodied, metaphorical, pleasure and play-based journey that goes beyond the intellectual and deep into the soma where shifts can take root in a sustainable and lasting way.
Aftercare
We land you softly, in support of integration and grounding, in a manner that has been previously discussed and agreed upon. This could look like letting you rest with a blanket, having a cup of tea, non-sexual, comforting touch or cuddling, giving you some space for silent/still/meditative solo time, etc.
Integration
This is where we again weave together somatic and psychospiritual modalities that serve integration, which may look like a combination of restorative bodywork/energywork, dialogue and verbal processing, creative process (Journaling, making art, expressive movement), time in nature, nourishing food and drink, etc. As with everything, this process will be tailored to your particular needs and system. We also offer at least one follow up integration call within two weeks of completing the session.